Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas (Radiyallahu’anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, “Blessing (barakah) is with your elders/ seniors.” Explanation: Elders refers to those who are experienced and punctual on good actions. Remain in their company so that you can follow their advices and attain guidance through emulating their ways. (Faydul Qadir, Hadith :3205)
The greatest punishment that can be imposed on any human is solitary confinement. We are not designed to exist in isolation. Family support is what gives us stability and foundation, and affords us a sense of identity and a sense of attachment, which is important to create a balance in the life of any individual.
The core of family in its entirety is healthy marriages. Healthy marriages forge healthy relationships across the board. Healthy relationships create healthy families, healthy families create happy individuals, who bring about happier communities, societies, and eventually a happier humanity. Yes! The happiness and contentment that everyone hankers after, starts with our marriages!
However, marriages which possess this potency require constant effort and care. This effort isn’t a once-off gesture, an occasional dinner, a yearly anniversary, and certainly not instant gratification. It starts with two individuals, often unique and different in their journeys and nature, who conscientiously choose each other with every sunrise. Two individuals who are willing to compromise their top priorities for each other, every single day. Two individuals who overlook and give each other another chance with every sunset.
Marriages Matters aims to upskill each one of us in the way we deal with relationships; especially marriages. It also aims to coach us regarding what effort is necessary for us to reignite the joy of unity, and cure the pandemic of disunity. What tips we require to re-paint our families with the joyful colours of Muhabbat once again. After all, marriages really do matter!
Below is an article prepared by Mufti Zameelur Rahmaan (Hafizahullah) of the UK, a student of Hazrat Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Rahimahullah). Mufti Sahib clarifies the responsibilities of both spouses from an Islamic perspective. Many a time we find ourselves unaware of...
Honour your in-laws as your own parents. Remember, it is through them that you received the wonderful man who is now your life partner. Avoid comparisons. Do not compare them to your own parents in a way that makes your spouse feel his parents are inadequate....
Speaking harshly to their spouse. When a child sees any parent mock their spouse, talk down to them or belittle them, something inside the child shifts negatively. The child notices everything, even though he/she may not say anything or pretend not to notice....
Learning Another’s Love Language At this point we are well clued-up about love languages and the emotional love tank. To appreciate this next piece, lets approximate love languages to the languages we speak. Most of us learn a primary language, our mother...
A Start It is imperative that we discover the love language of our spouse. But more importantly, it is necessary for us to discover our own love language first. For some it will be easy, and for others not so much. Think of the things you enjoy and make you feel...
4. Acts of Service Some people feel loved when their partners or loved ones carry out acts of service for them. “It fills my love tank the way she takes care of the home, or when she has a fresh home cooked meal ready as soon as I enter the door.” “It makes me love...
In the last article we explained about emotional love tanks and filling them through a specific love language. We also introduced you to the five love languages. As promised, we will now provide a little more detail, how to speak the love languages, and signs on how...
Glory be to (Allah Ta’ala) The One who created all (in) pairs; from what the earth grows and from (humankind) themselves, and from that which they do not know. [Yaseen:36] In the last article we discussed in detail the “in-love experience” and how it is not true love....
Moulana Muhammad Abbasomar mentioned that he heard some scholars prescribe frequent recitation of the following for improving ones wife's character; We rectified for him his wife. (Surah Ambiya: 90) (Hadithanswers.com)
Hakeemul Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi Sahib رحمه الله has advised that if a child requests something, fulfil the request promptly. If the request is refused, then regardless of the tantrums of the child, never then fulfil the request. If the request is...