(In the light of the teachings of our Mashaikh)
Many parents continuously complain regarding various challenges they face with their children. Below are prescriptions from our Akabir which will be beneficial for us:
1.Make Dua for your children daily as the parent’s Duas are accepted in favour of their children.
2.Continuously recite:
O My Rabb, Bless me with pious offspring!
3. Be tolerant and do not curse. Allah Ta’ala is tolerating your sins and rebellion.
4. Your Na-Baligh children are sinless. Hence, they enjoy a strong connection with Allah Ta’ala and their Duas are accepted in the court of Allah Ta’ala. Take care of them with this in mind that you are serving the friends of Allah Ta’ala and get them to make Dua for your needs of this world and the Hereafter.
5. Do not lose your temper for every trivial matter.
6. Admonish once or twice with compassion and thereafter adopt more firm measures. However, this should be adopted keeping in mind the welfare and betterment of the child.
7.You need your children just as they are in need of you.
8. Dedicate times in the day where your children enjoy your undivided attention.
9. Spouses must totally abstain from arguing or quarrelling in front of their children. This, at times leaves scars for life.
10. Expose them to good actions and create a hatred for disobedience to Deen.
11. Always smile and make Salaam.
12. Let them witness their parents fulfilling the rights of Allah Ta’ala and the creation. Insha Allah, they will do the same.
13. Make it a point to make the children meet the Ahlullah. In the absence of this, read to them the anecdotes of the pious.
14. Ensure that the children are neat and tidy in their appearance. Never allow their clothing to oppose the Shariah. Make the benchmark the Blessed Sunnah.