A Humble Request To The Womenfolk

A Humble Request To The Womenfolk

1. Just as women like attention, please don’t forget to say that you love your husbands. To assume that love is understood without expressing words of affection can lead to hurt.
2. Shower him with affectionate language constantly and you will have a servant for life!
3. Just as ladies hate a stern husband; a sharp tongued wife’s reputation in the husband’s eyes is greatly compromised.
4. Whilst the husband accepts the sovereignty of the wife; compassion in delegation goes a long way in defining a happy environment.
5. PLEASE dress up for the husband and not for others! Many wives are boring at home but dress to kill when they leave home! The husband feels greatly grieved at the hankering of attention from others whilst depriving himself of the true beauty of the wife.
6. Please respect the husband’s family and do not regard it as a burden. If there is a respectful approach from both sides; it helps a great deal in patterning a smooth path. We have generally distorted preferences which impact negatively on each another. If there is something to discuss; do it softly and not threateningly.
7. Husbands make mistakes but don’t pound them with their errors at the first instance. Rather, tackle him when he is alone and settled. He will regret his behavior and will go to great lengths to look after the wife’s heart. In most cases; the poor husband is left out of pocket to appease the ‘hurt’ of the wife!
8. Yes husbands can be nags! They get irritated at some of the most stupid of things. Don’t let this eruption of negativity affect you. In most instances, something is troubling him and he is consumed by the problem hence the poor behavior. Confront him when he is relaxed. You may lose the battle but by your reminding him in an amicable way will cause you to win the war! Seriously, its true!
9. When we know that the wife is pardoned by Allah سبحانه وتعالى for her certain weaknesses; please show some form of affection to the hubby. He also feels ignored at the lack of attention. Especially in the environment of immodesty nowadays; it is vital that the wife ensures that she has a firm grip on the heart of the-husband. The hubby will definitely be affected by the display of love which will cause him to be LOYAL; please UNDERSTAND this!
   10.We understand that our wives are like ‘captives’ but if they look after the occasions of interaction; the wives will have a slave for life.
   11.Please take care with regards to finances; if the wife shows her understanding and relates to the husband’s pocket; it is deeply appreciated. Sometimes, WELL MOSTLY (I admit), the husband does not express appreciation but he most certainly is affected and will react with compassion at a later stage.

By: Hazrat Hafiz Qaasim Paruk Sahib دامت بركاته in conformity with the teachings of Hazratjee Moulana Muhammad Maseehullah Khan Sahib رحمه الله , Hazrat Hajee Moulana Muhammad Farouq Sahib رحمه الله and Hazrat Dr. Saabir Sahib رحمه الله .